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The questions nobody answers plainly.
Plain writing on the money side of a life that changed — for the woman in it, not for a general audience.
Whose debt is this actually. What the decree does and doesn't change. What one income really covers. Why you can't open the bank app. No jargon, no upsell in the middle, and every one of them ends somewhere useful.
- 01Why You Can't Open the Bank AppIt isn't laziness, and it isn't denial. It's what a nervous system does when it has already been asked for more than it has.
- 02How to Build Your First Net Worth StatementNinety uncomfortable minutes buys you something you cannot get any other way: the ability to answer a question.
- 03Opening Accounts in Your Own NameThere is a difference between having money and being able to reach it — and women usually discover it in the worst possible way.
- 04Credit in Your Own NameYour credit file decides what it costs to be you. Almost nobody is taught to read it.
- 05The Decree Says He Pays It. Your Credit Report Disagrees.The bank was not a party to your divorce. That single fact costs women more money than almost anything else in a settlement.
- 06Find Your FloorYou are not having a stable month. You may not have one for a while. Build for that instead of pretending otherwise.
- 07The Résumé Gap Is Not the ProblemWomen coming back to paid work tend to inventory themselves by what's missing. Do the opposite first.
- 08December 31 Decides Your TaxesThe year everything changed doesn't show up on a return until the following spring. By then the decisions are made.
- 09Three Goals, Not EightA plan is not a summary of what you've learned. It's a small number of decisions with dates on them.
Written while it’s still happening.
I am not writing to you from the far side of this. These are notes from my own transition, published as I go — the things I did not know to ask, and what I would check if I were you.